I know the answer in your mind is," Of course!" What kind of a question is this? Well, most times it is not the case. Would you go to a concert alone? Would you go to a movie alone? Would you go for a game alone? If the answer to these and more is,"Yes" then yes you are the owner of your happiness. I know I am not, since my happiness depends on the happiness of others. My family, my friends all of them collectively define my happiness.
So if I am alone maybe I am not that happy after all. I don't know what the right state is or should be but I do know this, you should not be dependent on someone else to make you feel happy. That itself is really sad that you cannot make yourself feel happy doing something alone.
I attended a concert last weekend. I was there with a friend and my husband. There was a single guy sitting besides me. He was silent the entire time before the concert. When I saw him, the first thing that struck me was that,"Oh he is alone, that is so sad." He was listening to the opening bands while we were chatting away, making fun at one another. And then the concert began. He literally was off his feet the moment the band started playing, enjoying every moment of it. He was screaming, cheering, clapping and I would like to think that he was tearing up a little bit too. Seemed like a big fan of the band.My perspective of that individual changed that moment. I thought,"I wish I could do that!" Follow my happiness and do the things I love no matter if I have company to do it with or not. I used to do it in school where I would go ahead and try different things even if I was not necessarily good at them. But just trying them would give me immense satisfaction and happiness. Now I look for people to do it with. Or just pull my husband along because he does not have much of a choice ;)
My mid year resolution (yes, you can have a mid year resolution:) ) is now to go out there and explore new things that make me happy. If I find new or old friends on the way it is great, but that will not deter me from keep trying :)
Cheers to owning your Happiness!
Leena --<@
So if I am alone maybe I am not that happy after all. I don't know what the right state is or should be but I do know this, you should not be dependent on someone else to make you feel happy. That itself is really sad that you cannot make yourself feel happy doing something alone.
I attended a concert last weekend. I was there with a friend and my husband. There was a single guy sitting besides me. He was silent the entire time before the concert. When I saw him, the first thing that struck me was that,"Oh he is alone, that is so sad." He was listening to the opening bands while we were chatting away, making fun at one another. And then the concert began. He literally was off his feet the moment the band started playing, enjoying every moment of it. He was screaming, cheering, clapping and I would like to think that he was tearing up a little bit too. Seemed like a big fan of the band.My perspective of that individual changed that moment. I thought,"I wish I could do that!" Follow my happiness and do the things I love no matter if I have company to do it with or not. I used to do it in school where I would go ahead and try different things even if I was not necessarily good at them. But just trying them would give me immense satisfaction and happiness. Now I look for people to do it with. Or just pull my husband along because he does not have much of a choice ;)
My mid year resolution (yes, you can have a mid year resolution:) ) is now to go out there and explore new things that make me happy. If I find new or old friends on the way it is great, but that will not deter me from keep trying :)
Cheers to owning your Happiness!
Leena --<@
Awesome Leena! :-)
ReplyDeleteIve gone for plays, movies, n converts, all alone, n enjoyed thoroughly esp after my divorce, when I just wanted to be with myself for some time, and despite frens offering company, sometimes u really need to "own" your happiness, well said, dear classmate :)
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